“If every divorce were a ‘War of the Roses’, there would be blood on the streets!”
points out Barbara Quick, author of
Still Friends: Living Happily Ever After… Even if your Marriage Falls Apart.
I am feeling a bit sad today, may have even shed a little tear. My ex husband, my best friend just left for the airport after a month’s visit. I am at the stage of my life where kids have grown up and suddenly they have nothing to say to me. After over twenty years of upbringing, mother and child(ren) (or children and mother rather) no longer see eye to eye. Having my ex husband visited was such a blessing and a comfort for me especially at a time when I felt so alone in my life. Alone because I am going through mother and adult children estrangement if that is the word to describe what I am going through now. At this stage of my life, although I have children, one of them if not both or even all three are estranged children. It was good to have someone to talk to at home other than just talking to Toby. Toby listened, prick up his ears, looked at me in the eye, sniffed and licked me but he does not talk back.
My ex husband is that one special man in my life. We drifted apart when we were younger, too focused in building our individual career that we loose our connection and ended our marriage. We finally divorced after years of living apart but we stayed in touch as friends. Sharing our children, we are still part of one family. We will grow old together as best friends.
On a lighter note, I will post an old parable that I found while searching online for a support group for parents going through adult children estrangement. Thank you for sharing.
An Olde Parable
Posted on 07/28/13, 02:43 am